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I saw Waitress this week, which stars Keri Russell as Jenna, a talented creator of dozens of delicious-looking pies.  She is unhappily married to a loser named Earl, and in the first scene, she discovers that she is pregnant with their child.  This is not good news to Jenna.  She doesn’t want to be congratulated for getting pregnant the night Earl got her drunk:  “Thanks, but I’m not so happy about it like everybody else might be. I’m having the baby and that’s that.” Her doctor says, “Un-congratulations.”  Jenna responds, “Un-thank you.”

Throughout the movie, Jenna continues to make and serve incredible pies with names that reflect how she’s feeling, like ”Strawberry Chocolate Oasis Pie”, “Lonely Chicago Pie”, “Spanish Dancer Pie”, “I Hate My Husband Pie”, “Pregnant Miserable Self-Pitying Loser Pie”, etc.  As her belly gets bigger, she writes letters to her unborn child, expressing her feelings with gut-wrenching honesty.  Jenna is a sad and flawed mother-to-be, and she doesn’t try to hide it.

She finds comfort in her friends, her doctor, and her pies, but things look pretty bleak until the last part of the film.  I’ll refrain from spoiling anything other than to say her time in the hospital is incredibly significant, just as it is for any new mother.  I’ll also say that this movie has hope in it.  It’s got plenty of humor and sweetness mixed in.  Think Juno, but 10 years older, in the south.

Have you seen Waitress?  What was your reaction to it?  Did it make you want to try a slice of Marshmallow Mermaid pie? 

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Stop by Baby Cakes when you get a chance and check out these awesome items!

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Who doesn’t love a giveaway?

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Don’t forget about our own BlogHer Conference Pass giveaway!

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What is it like? I just experienced going to a home birth as a birth assistant a few weeks ago and it was awesome. It felt so normal and natural for the mom to labor and birth in her own home with her other children nearby. As a supporter and advocate of mother centered birth I have always been excited about home birth and the idea that women should birth their babies where they feel most comfortable. For some women, it is their home. They feel more comfortable and safe in their own familiar environments. They don’t have to worry about poking and prodding from strangers and can simply move from room to room as they feel during labor. Once the birth is over mom can shower in her own shower and then go to her own bed with her baby. So easy! After seeing it firsthand I can understand in a new way why mothers choose home birth.

Where does the mom birth her baby? Wherever she chooses. Midwives have a list of supplies for the mom to acquire before the birth and one of them is usually a clear vinyl shower curtain that can be laid on top of the bed or floor to protect the surface. If a mom thinks she will want to birth in her bed she will put on a set of sheets, the vinyl shower curtain, and then another set of clean sheets on top of the shower curtain. The shower curtain protects the mattress and once the birth is over all the midwives need to do is take off the sheets and shower curtain used to birth on and throw them in the washer and then mom has some clean sheets to lay down on. A lot of moms will birth their babies next to the bed in a squatting position or in the living room. Some midwives have birth stools for the mom to sit on while she pushes the baby out. Midwives will talk with the mom either when she arrives for the birth or ahead of time about where the mom thinks she will birth the baby. If the mom has a good idea where she will want to birth the baby then the midwives will set up their equipment nearby so it will be convenient to get to during labor and birth.

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SAHM is the internet savvy way of saying “Stay-at- Home-Mom.” Stay-at-home Moms choose for many reasons to stay home with their children. For some, the costs of childcare outweigh the income made if the mom worked outside the home. Other moms are miserable working their 9-5 job and are looking for a change of pace. Other moms choose to forego the workforce so they can spend that time with their children. No matter the reason, there are millions of women who are SAHM.

Ask any SAHM and you’ll receive a laundry list of job titles she holds. Childcare worker, teacher, taxi driver, facilities manager, short-order cook, laundry attendant, janitor, counselor, CEO, entertainer, personal stylist, administrative assistant, accounting clerk, nurse, plumber, automotive mechanic, and cake decorator are only a few of her job titles.

While there is no monetary compensation or typical work benefits like 401k’s or sick leave, there are a lot of satisfying rewards in being a SAHM. The obvious include being there with your children for every milestone, boo-boo, and story time. The not so obvious (and somewhat selfish) benefits include, having breaks for yourself when the kids are napping, all day pajama days, and a more flexible schedule (unless Connor is your child, requiring you to be home for his 9:00am and 1:00pm naps because he is too cool to sleep in the car. LOL!)

The hardest part of being a SAHM for me is that I have three bosses (my husband, Darah, and Connor) who do not always synchronize their job assignments for their lowly slave me. Even with the most supportive of husbands, sometimes he will expect things of me that are just not possible depending on the mood of the day. Some days are very laid back and I’m able to shorten my to-do list. Other days are so chatoic and I’m unable to accomplish anything! These days may include a sick child, a child who won’t nap but desperately needs one, or a child who takes off his poopy diaper and smears it all over his crib. The “more flexible” schedule comes at the cost of having to be on call of untimely events.

I found this article which outlines four things every SAHM needs to know. These four things include:

1. Be proud of what you do.
2. Keep in touch with friends.
3. Stay organized.
4. Get in touch with your creative side.

What are your days like? Do you find your job as a SAHM harder or easier than when you worked?

The Mom Crowd is giving away a free full conference pass to the BlogHer Conference in San Francisco this July 18-20. This pass is valued at $348!

What’s the catch? All that we ask is that you write up a guest blog post for The Mom Crowd about your experience and what you learned at the conference. The guest post will need to be submitted within a week of the conference ending. Also, all blog posts are better with a photo, right? You can also share a favorite photo from the conference.

Sounds awesome, how do I enter to win? All you need to do to enter to win is leave a comment in the comment section with a short description of your blog and a link to it. You enter to win a free pass and you get to promote your own blog. How super is that? Please include your email address when you fill out the comment form so we can contact you.

You have until Friday, June 6th, at 10:00 p.m. Central time to enter. The winner will be chosen at random and announced on Saturday morning.

Thanks for entering!

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