The Mom Crowd

A couple of weeks ago, my husband shocked me by bringing home Raising Helen from the library.  He said, “I’ve never seen it but I thought it’d be fun to watch together.”  I had only seen it once, before I had my kids.  I remembered it was the least annoying Kate Hudson movie I’d seen.  And Dave was right: we did have fun watching it together, mostly for the cheesy tagline: “She gave up the life she loved for the new loves of her life.”  Catchy!  I kept telling Dave, “This is still the life she loves.  Soon you’ll meet the kids who’ll become the loves of her life.”  Ha ha ha.  It doesn’t take much to get us going.

Anyway, Kate’s okay in this one.  She plays Helen Harris, who becomes the primary caregiver of her deceased sister’s three children.  Before the accident, Helen was a carefree, up-and-coming, in-the-moment kind of woman living in New York.  She loved her job in a swanky modeling agency, and she had a pulse on everything that was new and fierce.  She was also the “cool” aunt in the family, the one with the great hair.

Now that she’s suddenly in charge of a 15-year old, a 12-year old, and a 7-year old, Helen is forced to give up her old lifestyle (the one she always loved, sorry, couldn’t resist) and become a mom – overnight.  This involves more than just making sure the kids get to school on time.  This means Helen has to grow up herself, hence the title.

Throughout the film, we see Helen enduring lots of life changes in a short period of time: losing her job (“fashion and family don’t mix”, her boss says dismissively) and moving to Queens, becoming a receptionist at a used car dealership, and trying to prove to her surviving sister Jenny (played to annoying, uptight perfection by Joan Cusack) that she is capable of raising the kids.  Before she gains Jenny’s respect, though, she has to learn how to be a parent.  Before, she was teenager Audrey’s fun aunt – now, she’s the one calling the shots.  And Audrey tests her boundaries, dating the school bad boy and sneaking out on prom night.  When Helen tries to put a stop to it all, Audrey shouts: “Don’t you remember what it’s like to be young?”  And Helen replies, “Of course I remember.  It was last Wednesday!” 

There are numerous other things happening that Helen has to deal with, like starting a new relationship with yummy John Corbett (hey, no time like the present!), and mending the strained relationship with her sister.  Of course, it all works out in the end.  Helen makes her authority clear to the kids, and they love and respect her as their new parent figure.  Jenny gives Helen the respect she earns.  And little Abigail Breslin learns to tie her shoes all by herself.  Helen’s a success, and still with great hair!

Interesting quotes from the film:

“You’re quite the detective!” – Helen to Jenny  “No, I’m a mom.” – Jenny, trusting her instincts to find Audrey on prom night

“Not all women are meant to be mothers.” – Ibsen, as quoted by Helen’s former boss

“I’m not a mom.  I’m not brave!” – Helen, panicking

Did you see this one?  Was it strange to see Helen Mirren and Hayden Panettiere playing parts other than Queen Elizabeth and the Heroes cheerleader, respectively?  I know this is a Garry Marshall movie and all, but is this a realistic portrayal of the demands of motherhood? 

P.S.  I just finished watching No Reservations, the little-seen Catherine Zeta-Jones/Aaron Eckhart rom-com.  Its plot is pretty similar to Raising Helen, except this time, our “new mom” is an executive chef.  Interestingly enough, she did not have to quit her job to take care of her niece.  The surviving daughter in this one is also played by Abigail Breslin (that child is everywhere these days!)  I found the movie to be about as bland as its title.  It focused on the relationship of the two romantic leads and all of the scrumptious foods they prepared – not that there’s anything wrong with that.  Foodies would love this movie – I just didn’t think it had much to say about motherhood other than, whoa, finding a decent babysitter takes some effort!   Check it out and tell me what you think!